Be a stranger to your own problems

December 20, 2024

In an earlier post, I brought up the fact (it is a fact) that it is easier to solve other’s problems than our own for a variety of cognitive reasons.

Below are some quick steps to take that knowledge, turn it on its head to help us solve our own problems– because sometimes we are alone on a deserted island and need to help ourselves.

1. Pretend You're Advising a Friend

Why it works: Emotional distancing helps you think more clearly.
How to do it: Write down your problem as if it were your friend’s, then give yourself the advice you’d offer them.

2. Break It Down

Why it works: As mentioned yesterday, decision-making fatigue is real. Big problems often feel overwhelming because of all the noise in your life that is unrelated to this specific situation.
How to do it: Divide the issue into smaller, manageable steps. Focus on solving one piece at a time.

3. Question Your Assumptions (aka opposite of Behavior Patterns)

Why it works: Assumptions block creative thinking. Don’t assume you know what is/ isn’t possible. This is difficult because we are all wired to think a certain way.
How to do it: Ask yourself, “What if this isn’t true?” or “Is there another way to look at this?”

4. Use the 5 Whys Technique

Why it works: It gets to the root of the problem. Remember, the Ego has put up defenses, clouding our ability to address the core issue.
How to do it: Keep asking “Why?” (at least 5 times) to uncover the deeper cause behind the issue.

As you proceed through these steps, it's ok to walk away, go for a walk (literally), write everything down (your concerns, fears) and acknowledge what you can and can't control.

You got this. And if you do need an outsider's perspective, get in touch with us. We are here to support you.

Happy Holidays!